Personal Sexual Discipline

Paul said these words in 1 Thessalonians 4:3-8

"For this is the will of God, your sanctification: that you should abstain from sexual immorality; that each of you should know how to possess his own vessel in sanctification and honor, not in passion of lust, like the Gentiles who do not know God;

that no one should take advantage of and defraud his brother in this matter, because the Lord is the avenger of all such, as we also forewarned you and testified. For God did not call us to uncleanness, but in holiness.

Therefore he who rejects this does not reject man, but God, who has also given us His Holy Spirit."

The definition of "abstain" is "to hold oneself off."

In other words, you hold off from doing something. In this case, you hold off from sexual immorality.

The deterents imposed upon sexual immorality should be enough to hold oneself off from fulfilling the desires of the flesh and the mind. However, there is a better way.

Deterents are last line of defense that gets you to thinking that if you engage in risky sinful activity, this is what will come upon you.

Notice what the Lord said in Exodus 15:25b-26 "There He made a statute and an ordinance for them, and there He tested them, and said, “If you diligently heed the voice of the Lord your God and do what is right in His sight, give ear to His commandments and keep all His statutes, I will put none of the diseases on you which I have brought on the Egyptians. For I am the Lord who heals you."

You see, as long as the children "...diligently heed the voice of the Lord your God and do what is right in His sight, give ear to His commandments and keep al His statutes...."

This is where the same principles apply to us as NT believers.

Matthew 7:21-29 is similar.

To abstain from sexual immorality the first line must never be crossed. 

What is the first line?

You love God more than you love sin.

In Matthew 22:37 Jesus said to him, “‘You shall love the Lord your God with all your heart, with all your soul, and with all your mind.’ This is the first and great commandment." 


In John 14:15, Jesus said,  “If you love Me, keep My commandments."


In John 14:21, Jesus said "He who has My commandments and keeps them, it is he who loves Me. And he who loves Me will be loved by My Father, and I will love him and manifest Myself to him."


In John 14:23 "Jesus answered and said to him, “If anyone loves Me, he will keep My word; and My Father will love him, and We will come to him and make Our home with him. He who does not love Me does not keep My words; and the word which you hear is not Mine but the Father's who sent Me."

All of these statements is a revelation of the kind of proof that is required. This proves whether you love the Lord or not.

If you love the Lord, you prove it by keeping His commandments. If you do not love the Lord, the proof that you do not love Him is when you do not keep His words or commandments.

Notice what John, an apostle of the Lamb said.

1 John 5:3-5 "For this is the love of God, that we keep His commandments. And His commandments are not burdensome. For whatever is born of God overcomes the world. And this is the victory that has overcome the world — our faith. Who is he who overcomes the world, but he who believes that Jesus is the Son of God?"

The ones that keeps His commandments are the overcomers. The ones that does not keep His commandments are overcome.

They will not abstain or hold oneself off.

If you claim to know Him, then this Scripture is appropriate.

1 John 3:4-6 says, "Whoever commits sin also commits lawlessness, and sin is lawlessness. And you know that He was manifested to take away our sins, and in Him there is no sin. Whoever abides in Him does not sin. Whoever sins has neither seen Him nor known Him."

Remember in our anchor Scripture, 1 Thessalonians 4:3-8, Paul said, " the Gentiles that do not know God."

Notice again what John said......"Whoever abides in Him does not sin. Whoever sins has neither seen Him nor known Him."

If you refuse to stop sinning, and you claim to know God, the Scriptures is very clear. According to 1 John 1:9 and chapter 2:1-2, we can ask for forgiveness and be cleansed, if we confess our sins. However, if we are in habits, patterns, and cycles of sin, it brings into question whether you are a genuine child of God. Either you are or you are not.

At best, you are a hypocrite.

Do you want to continue jeopardizing your salvation, be a hypocrite, or be a genuine believer?

It takes discipline to adhere to the Word of God. In fact, that's what a true disciple is. One that adheres or executes or deliberately implement the teachings of Jesus. Therefore, a true disciple is a disciplined disciple.