Victory Over Pornography

Pornography.

Wives are at their wit's ends with their husband's porn addiction. Many are crying for help from God. Many pastors are ill equipped to handle this volatile area. What is a struggling wife to do? And what is a struggling husband to do?

In the United States, 89% (over 290 million websites) of the worldwide distribution of Internet porn originates in this country.

According to blazinggrace.org, 70% of professed Christians struggle with pornography. 

As a former level one sexual addict from 1998 to 2008, I know well the traps of watching porn. 

There are many men that go to church or once went to church but fell by the wayside. I was wallowing in the pig slop of porn. Drinking the muddy water of porn until the Lord, during a time of watching porn and self gratifying myself, He said to me.

"Is this what you do to Me after all the good I've done for you?"

It was at that moment that I needed to get His help to break the curse of porn off of my life.

Over the course of time, the Lord led me to come clean. I solicited the help of Pastor Roger Jamison, senior pastor of Sword of the Spirit Tabernacle in Brooklyn, NY. His invaluable insight in this area was key to being successfully delivered from the curse of porn.

Equally invaluable were the prayers of my wife and daughter. 

God heard their cries and answered them in a dramatic way.

The Lord said to me, "Come Clean. Or be exposed!"

Pornography is the number one stronghold on the devil's hit parade to destroy men and their families.

As long as a man refuses to come clean, he will remain in bondage and if he refuses to repent, he will spend eternity in hell.

It's not the porn that will send them to hell. It's the lust in his heart.

1 John 2:15-17 says, Love not the world neither the things that are in the world. If any one loves the world, the love of the Father is not in him. For all that is in the world, the lust of the flesh, the lust of the eyes, and the pride of life is not of the Father but is of the world. And this world is passing away and the lust thereof, but he that does the will of God abides forever."

No man watches porn and not act out sexually.

He will either masturbate, solicite a prostitute, fornicate, or commit physical adultery, or all of the above.

Sexual addiction is a stronghold that most men refuse to admit, let alone, break free from.

Case in point. 

Setting Captives Free which is a website developed by Mike Cleveland to help men break free from the vicious cycle of porn addiction in one stretch had over 3 million hits on his site. Only 300,000 persons either started or completed the course to be set free by the grace of God.

As an alumnus of Setting Captives Free this powerful site has a course called "The Way To Purity." It was a 60 day course designed to help you understand porn addiction, instill within you the principles of God Word, and enforces a strict no porn, no masturbation policy. At the end of each course for 60 days, you must answer the accountability questions as to whether you've watched porn and masturbated.

Having successfully completed the course, if you can abstain from porn and masturbation for 60 days, you have learned a valuable lesson in achieving sexual discipline. Dr. Mark Laaser calls it, "Healthy Sexuality."

Only 10% ventured to either start the course or break free of porn addiction.

Is it possible for a man or woman to break free? 

Yes it is. You are not hopeless. Like the father of the prodigal son, the Lord looks up that old dusty road to accept you back in the family. 

Provided that you return, repent, and be reconciled to God

"For with God, all things are possible."

All around the world and particularly in the church, people sit in our services across the United States, held captive by their desires. They are looking for intimacy, but they are looking in the wrong place. Only God can bring full satisfaction. The devil's way to fool man is to place a carrot on a stick. We reach for it but we fail to get it everytime.

We "trot" like a horse towards the carrot, only to be disappointed. Empty and hungry, we languish for satisfaction.

The woman at Jacob's well in John chapter 4 thirsted for water and Jesus revealed why she was thirsting. She longed for intimacy in her heart, but she always came up short. Jesus told her that the water that she is drinking from, she would thirst again. But the water that Jesus would give her, she would never thirst again.

The woman had 6 men. Having one man after another. 

No different than pornography.

We look at one woman after another, pretending to have sex with her. One after another and never reach any satisfaction. Even in masturbation, or committing adultery and fornication, and with prostitutes, we are never satisfied. 

This is where the Lord comes in and gives you living water so that you would never thirst again.

Lust is a deadly sin because if we refuse to admit that we have a lust situation, we will never get any victory.

The beautiful thing is that the Lord knows where you are and He will wait on you to leave the filthy water, and exchange it for healthy, living water. The woman at Jacob's well left her water pot because she didn't need it any more. When you are ready to quit the sin of porn and masturbation, you will leave your water pot because you will not need it any more.

For "in His presence, there is fullness of joy and at His right hand, there are pleasures forevermore." 

"His Presence Changes Everything" as Steve Swanson sings.

Will you do the same?

In John 5, there was a man at the pool of Bethsaida. He was lame for 38 years because of sin in his life. Jesus asked him one question.

"Do you want to be made well?

My question to you is the same.

Do you want to be made well?

If you answered "Yes," then the next thing that you need to do is repent and ask the Lord to forgive you. The Bible tells us in Isaiah 55 that He would abundantly pardon. God's power will come and set you free, "...for He whom the Son sets free is free indeed."

But you need to get help because in a few moments, the urges and impulses will return. The struggle with your flesh and mind will return. It is at this point that you need to make a decision to stay free or go back to the vomit to slop it up.

The power of God is already at work in you but it is now a maintenance of the power of God in you.

You cannot do this alone.

Isolated accountability is worthless.

You need the eyes of another person on your life so that you can have someone to pray for you, help you through the deliverance, and to provide, loving confrontation so that your deliverance sticks.

There are many churches that do not offer this level of help because of a few reasons.

1. Pastors are involved in porn and masturbation themselves.
2. Pastors refer other believers to the counseling of the world.
3. Pastors refuse to gather information to deal with this issue in their own churches.

This is MOAB.

MOTHER OF ALL BATTLES

Sexual immorality is the Goliath of our times.


It's not enough to put a smooth rock in the head of the giant (porn and masturbation).

We must take the giant's own sword and cut the head from the body.

It takes courage, faith, and obedience to get the job done.

At Prevailing Word Ministries, we stand ready to help you gain the victory, won on the cross by the Lord over two thousand years ago, over pornography. Please consider purchasing a copy of Secret Sexual Sins II MOAB.

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